Are You Mad at Me?
A Therapy Group for People Pleasers in Scottsdale
Always wondering if someone is upset with you? This small in-person group helps untangle the people-pleasing patterns behind the overthinking, the over-apologizing, and the fear of letting anyone down.
People Pleasing Processing Group
OCTOBER 29TH – DECEMBER 10TH, 2026
6 weekly sessions – Thursday 5:30 – 7 PM
(No group on Thanksgiving Day 11/26/26)
In-person at our Scottsdale office – limited to 6 participants
$75 per session ($475 total) – payment due in full at the first session
*Registration is for all six sessions; this group does not accept drop-ins.
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People pleasing is exhausting, and you are not the only one doing it!
Do you find yourself wondering if someone is mad at you, even when they haven’t said they are? Do you reread texts, replay conversations, and scan for a shift in someone’s tone you’re sure you caused?
If you apologize when you’ve done nothing wrong, say yes when you mean no, and quietly carry the job of keeping everyone around you comfortable, you may have learned to read other people’s feelings so well that you’ve lost track of your own.
This group is inspired by the book Are You Mad at Me? by Meg Josephson. Reading it is recommended but not required.
Lisa Elsbecker, LPC, leads each session, and the same six members meet together for all six weeks so the group stays consistent and safe for everyone in it.
When you’re the one who always keeps the peace
You notice the mood in a room before anyone says a word. You adjust, you soften, you fill the silence. People describe you as easy and low-maintenance.
What they don’t see is the running tally underneath: the message you drafted four times, the plan you agreed to and then resented, the apology you offered for something that wasn’t yours.
When saying no feels like a risk
For a lot of people pleasers, “no” doesn’t feel like a boundary. It feels like a threat to the relationship. So you say yes and manage the cost privately – the overextended schedule, the resentment you don’t think you’re allowed to have, the slow disappearance of what you actually wanted.
Learning to tolerate someone else’s disappointment is a skill, and it’s very hard to practice alone. That’s what a group is for.
What we’ll explore together…
- Why we become hyperaware of other people’s emotions
- Fear of conflict, rejection and disappointing others
- Overthinking, overexplaining and seeking reassurance
- Guilt and anxiety around saying no
- Setting boundaries without excessive apologizing
- Identifying what you actually want and need
- Tolerating someone else’s disappointment without immediately trying to fix it
- Building relationships based on authenticity rather than approval
This is a confidential therapy group, not a book club. Members learn, practice new skills, and process their own relationship patterns alongside others who recognize the experience from the inside.
You’ve spent a long time making sure everyone else was okay… take a little time for your own self care and nurturing.
Contact Us to Sign Up
Call/text us at (602) 999-8245 or submit the interest form below and we’ll get back to you!
People Pleasers Processing Group Inquiry Form
Tell us a bit about what brings you to the group, We’ll reach back shortly to followup with next steps. Thank you!
People Pleasing Processing Group FAQs
Updated %%DATE%%. The People Pleasing Processing group provides clinical guidance and psychoeducation in a small group setting led by Lisa Elsbecker, LPC.
